Brombergs Förlag, Uppsala, 2003. 8o Pocketbok. Fint skick. Översatt av Synnöve Olsson. 298 sid.

Bogklubben 12 Bøger, 1997. 8o Förlagsband med illustrerade pärmar. Mycket fint skick. Mindre tuschmärke på försättsbladet. På Dansk ved Inge Biielefeldt. 316 sid. 205x128 mm. Originalets titel: MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS (1992) SPRÅK: DANSK

Brombergs Förlag, Uppsala, 1995. 8o Förlagsband med illustrerade pärmar. Mycket fint skick. Översatt av Synnöve Olsson. 298 sid. 218x135 mm.

Brombergs Förlag, Uppsala, 1995. 8o Pocketbok. Fint skick. Översatt av Synnöve Olsson. 298 sid.

2001

C O N D I T I O N : Very Good. N O T E S: Paperback. C O N T E N T S : (Originally £9.99) ||| || |

C O N D I T I O N : Very Good. N O T E S: Paperback. Size: B Format (7¾" x 5¼"). C O N T E N T S : A breakup, divorce, or loss of a loved one isn't just the end of your relationship with that person. It's a continuation of every feeling of abandonment you've ever suffered. It's the loss of a system of approval you'd come to depend on. The struggle, as Gray points out in Starting Over, isn't just to find a new partner, but to get over those feelings of abandonment or loss or anger or whatever else gets dredged up by the end of a relationship. Perhaps the book's most crucial chapter posits that the best way to get over the loss of love is to focus on the love more than the loss. That may seem impossible, especially if the bum took off with your best friend, your life savings, and your Lyle Lovett CDs, but Gray didn't get to be a household name because the advice in his Venus and Mars books doesn't work. Remembering only the bad parts, Gray says, leaves you with an important part of your emotional being closed to new business. As for the Venus and Mars stuff, that comes in the second half of the book, when Gray looks at how men and women start new relationships from different points of view, with different priorities (a man might want to have fun with no strings attached; a woman might carry with her a lengthy list of requirements for her next partner, a list that excludes virtually all available men). (Originally £7.99) 256pp. ||| || |

C O N D I T I O N : Very Good. N O T E S: Paperback. C O N T E N T S : A classic and unique self-help book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus tackles the perennial problems faced by couples everywhere. Gray tells an allegorical story of the Venusians and the Martians who move to Earth, having enjoyed wonderful and fulfilling relationships with one another for many years. However, as soon as they arrive on this planet, amnesia sets in! They can no longer remember that they are from different planets and all sorts of communication and emotional problems set in. Written in an unpretentious and jargon- free style, Gray's tactic of using "Venusian" and "Martian" to refer to the two genders (and he does comment that these roles are not necessarily based on sexual biology) avoids the dead-end path followed by so many people, of using sweeping statements such as: "men always?" or "women just don't understand?". Instead, he says: "Remember, Venusians are from a different planet, therefore?" or, "Martians need?" This in itself is worthwhile tactic, removing blame-culture and shifting communication onto a new level where it is OK not to be on the same wavelength all the time and not to automatically understand all your partner's needs. His new naming strategy even manages to be amusing, in a way that many books in this area can fail to be, although the writing tends towards over-simplicity at times. He discusses every aspect of relationships--but most importantly he does this in practical ways. For example, he lists common statements that a person in a relationship say to their partner, what that person intends them to mean and what the person to whom it is directed actually hears, or thinks they mean. Gray goes on to suggest ways to say what you intended that are more appropriate for the Venusian or Martian audienc--he even compiles lists of translations of common male/female exchanges. Each chapter takes situations from either the Venusian or Martian side, making the book easy to dip into, as well as enjoyable to read cover to cover. The case for each interplanetary race is put simply and in a very down-to-earth manner, and the book avoids trying to be too clever for its own good. Some tips from the book: Venusians take note--Martians also have monthly cycles of emotions, and need to retreat into their "cave" every now and then, so Venusians needn't feel shut out when their favourite Martian retreats without a word. The Martians could help by telling the Venusians that while they are retreating right now, they will soon be back out and they will then discuss any concerns the Venusians have. Martians should be reassured that, although Venusians climb down into their well every now and then, it is not that the Martians have hurt them--they too are taking time out. Their favourite Venusian will be back soon, ready to re-embrace their closeness. (Originally £9.99)304pp. ||| || |

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